The pandemic brought unfortunate tragedy to many peoples’ lives. Not everything was sunshine and rainbows at this time due to the loss of loved ones, being confined in-home for quarantine, or not having a structured plan in place to support work or kids at home. Adaptation and adjustment to difficult situations and loss were, and, still are the name of the game. “You have to learn to be comfortable being uncomfortable” (Coach Mike Friday). These are perfect words to define new norms like wearing masks and social distancing. As we learn to adapt and adjust, the light begins to reappear at the end of the tunnel. What becomes uncomfortable becomes acceptable. Therefore, we must move on to understand the preciousness life has to offer.
Taking Steps Backwards
During quarantine, people developed some positive attributes that changed and turned around their lives for the best. Many people truly understood what it was like to take steps backward, to restore and enjoy certain nostalgia pieces. For example, being home allowed parents to spend more moments with their children rather than being hunkered at a desk. Or, sit down to sip and savor their coffee in the morning instead of guzzling it as an energetic caffeine substance before work. That’s the power of nostalgia. Returning to the simple or the most memorable moments back in time, produces a powerful life and youthful transformation and restoration. When one experiences a loss of time, they understand what is most important and valuable to them and what they have missed. These are very powerful feelings that push the reset button.
Sink Or Swim
It is the transition that is always the most difficult and chaotic part of any situation. When there are sudden adjustments and changes in the multitude, it creates chaos and a “sink or swim” situation. During the pandemic time, there was no choice of when or where. You had to adapt and transition quickly. Let’s take the optimistic approach here. Things that people wanted personally in life, started to happen. Many people wanted to exchange inadequate bad behaviors for good ones. Oftentimes, personal transformations get delayed, put on hold, or forgotten about because of stress, work, or not having the time or the energy to put into changing themselves. Therefore, the pandemic forced transitions and situations for adaptation to happen. This provided the time and the influence for transformation to occur in many peoples’ lives for the best.
Like Confucius said, “To have new beginnings, one must experience chaos.” After the chaos, a new beginning always emerges on the other side. In the end, new beginnings emerge, and resets happen. You must take this time to extract what you want and the positivity to evolve and change your perception about who you are, your work, happiness, and life to improve yourself rather than be consumed by the negative aspects.
“Train your mind to see something good in everything”. Buddha
A study at Leeds Trinity University, British Families in Lockdown, was a study done by Dr. Carmen Clayton and Marie Potter. The study by these two women used 60 parents to understand how they managed work, their home life, and their children’s education and schooling. The parents were from diverse backgrounds, for example, ranging from their culture, income, and religious beliefs. They asked parents specific questions that pertained to their work, their children being at home all day, being schooled online at home by their teachers, how technology was used in the home, the dynamics of their family relationships, and their health and wellbeing. Dr. Carmen Clayton and Marie Potter’s results showed:
Family Bonds Strengthened
Parents restored and had a renewed attitude with their family and personal relationships. They had a better balance between their work and family life, being happy to have the ability to spend more time with their children.
The Advantages Of Working From Home
Parents loved the fact of commuting less and living a slower pace of life. Many reassessed their work, and career paths and quite a few parents were actively wanting and looking for new and different employment that offers more flexibility with the job being at home.
The Benefit Of Home-Schooling Children
The children benefited from one-on-one learning at home by evolving their reading, writing, and language skills much faster than in-school learning.
The Leeds Trinity study shows you that adapting to the chaos can lead to new beginnings and how being uncomfortable leads to being comfortable. The quarantine and pandemic chaos made people rethink life; what they are doing, why they are doing it, and what they need to be happy or what makes them happy.
Embracing A Slower Life
People have developed the ability to relax, slow down and embrace again. Work takes so much out of you and consumes you mentally, physically, and emotionally. Not feeling the need to rush to work creates less stress and time pressure constraints. By saving hours a week in commute traffic and transit time, people can participate in fitness and exercise routines, read a book, have more time to spend with their family, and play with their kids. Many people are taking better care of themselves and have seen how their job or work created unwanted behaviors and feelings and poor health that lead to the worst. Furthermore, spirituality was restored into many lives rather than being suppressed.
People have more time and better control of it. People do not have complete control but have enough to create breathing room and time to think. Many people can sit down and eat their meal without rushing to eat breakfast, lunch, or dinner, to get to the office. Also, they now have time to cook and prepare their own food and make healthier choices of what to eat.