10 Tips to Pick Yourself Up After a Defeat

October 25, 2010

It was a tough weekend for many athletes. The reigning Super Bowl champs, the New Orleans Saints, lost to the Cleveland Browns; UFC Heavyweight Champion Brock Lesnar took a beat down from Cain Velasquez; and the #1-ranked Oklahoma Sooners were defeated by Missouri. The following photos capture some of the "agony of defeat."

Many of us have experienced disappointment after a big loss. For an athlete, the question is, "how will you respond?" Here are 10 ways to overcome a difficult defeat.

  1. Don’t relive the memories – You can’t change the past. Playing something over and over again in your mind doesn’t help. Understand what went wrong so you can be ready for a similar problem next time, but do this through active consideration rather than replaying how disaster struck.
  2. Relegate the upset to the past – Now is the time to move on with your head held high, no matter how bad the situation was previously.
  3. Don’t play the blame game – Whether you blame yourself or a teammate, it’s not useful. By all means, learn from your mistakes, but don’t beat yourself up. If someone else caused the loss, it's too late to do anything about it, so your best bet is to understand that life is not always perfect and move on. None of us is immune to injustice and setback.
  4. Don’t mope around under your "comfort blanket" – There’s no time to feel sorry for yourself. It only wastes time and affects the rest of your life negatively. Come out from under your blanket and prepare for better times.
  5. Plan ahead – What you do next could shape a remarkable comeback or bring on more losses. By planning ahead, you set yourself up for the former.
  6. Don’t fret, ponder and dwell – Even if you aren’t reliving the memories, you may still be agonizing over the problems. Focus on positive actions rather than the upsetting issues.
  7. Stop looking for sympathy – It’s ever so nice to hear that others are thinking of you during your difficult time. Sympathy does have its place, but don’t get stuck there. Hearing too much sympathetic talk, you tend to get used to it and crave more. Remember, now is the time to move on!
  8. Write out your recovery plans – Put your actions in front of you. Note how you aim to crush everything in your path. List everything you will do to get back on top. Once you’ve written down your plans, you have a physical document to refer to. Stick it up on your wall and work toward it until you achieve the goals.
  9. Relax – Defeat stress, raise endorphins and breathe.
  10. Get Back to Work - Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again.

Photos:  Times-Picayune, fightlinker.com, AP Photo/Jeff Roberson

Source:  theuniversityblog.co.uk

Zosimo Maximo
- Zosimo Maximo was formally a member of STACK Media's video production team. He began his career as a reality producer for MTV and Spike Television....
Zosimo Maximo
- Zosimo Maximo was formally a member of STACK Media's video production team. He began his career as a reality producer for MTV and Spike Television....
Must See
Drew Brees Will Not Be Denied Drew Brees Will Not Be Denied
Views: 9,462,530
Michael Jordan: Mind of a Champion Michael Jordan: Mind of a Champion
Views: 546,499
Dashon Goldson: Dashon Goldson: "You Just Gotta Have Heart"
Views: 5,028,584

Featured Videos

Basketball Shooting Drill: Kevin Love's Turn-and-Shoot Drill Basketball Shooting Drill: Kevin Love's Turn-and-Shoot Drill Views: 1,877
SEALFIT: Pushing the Limits of What Athletes Are Capable Of SEALFIT: Pushing the Limits of What Athletes Are Capable Of
Athletic Gaines: Get Faster With Weighted Sled Pushes Athletic Gaines: Get Faster With Weighted Sled Pushes
Load More

Resources

STACK Fitness

Everything you need to be fitter than ever

STACK Conditioning

Sport-specific conditioning programs

Coaches and Trainers

Tips and advice for coaches and trainers

Magazine

Latest issues of STACK Magazine

STACK 4W

Women's sports workout, nutrition and lifestyle advice

Gamer

Gaming, entertainment and tech news

Basic Training

Military-style training for athletes

News

Find the latest news relevant to athletes

Most Popular Videos

Derrick Rose Explains How He Stays Positive Derrick Rose Explains How He Stays Positive
Views: 6,060,319
Allyson Felix Explains How To Choose a Coach Allyson Felix Explains How To Choose a Coach
Views: 8,690,923
Dustin Pedroia on Training Dustin Pedroia on Training
Views: 10,919,916
Charging Ground Balls With Skip Schumaker Charging Ground Balls With Skip Schumaker
Views: 29,852
Yoga for Athletes: Crow Pose Yoga for Athletes: Crow Pose
Views: 3,539,390

Load More
More Cool Stuff You'll Like
The Art of Strength and Conditioning Coaching

The Art of Strength and Conditioning Coaching

Ask yourself a few questions. What makes a good strength and conditioning coach? How can you tell good coach from a bad coach? Can anyone become a good...

5 Steps to Becoming a Better Coach

5 Steps to Becoming a Better Coach

4 Tips for Building Confidence

4 Tips for Building Confidence

How Nik Wallenda Prepared to Walk Across the Grand Canyon

How Nik Wallenda Prepared to Walk Across the Grand Canyon

Why You Should Be Training Instead of Exercising

Why You Should Be Training Instead of Exercising

6 Ways Sport Parents Are Doing It Wrong

6 Ways Sport Parents Are Doing It Wrong

What's Your Backup Plan When 'Plan A' Fails?

What's Your Backup Plan When 'Plan A' Fails?

How Mental Flexibility Boosts Your Game

How Mental Flexibility Boosts Your Game

The Athletic Brain: How to Learn to Anticipate

The Athletic Brain: How to Learn to Anticipate

A Coach Describes What Its Like to Cut Players

A Coach Describes What It

Regain Your Confidence by Getting BIG

Regain Your Confidence by Getting BIG

The Holistic Approach to Impactful Sports Coaching

The Holistic Approach to Impactful Sports Coaching

Overcome the 5 Most Common Mental Mistakes in Sports

Overcome the 5 Most Common Mental Mistakes in Sports

Stress Exposure Training for Basketball

Stress Exposure Training for Basketball

Use Sports Psychology Against Your Opponents

Use Sports Psychology Against Your Opponents

Mental Warm-Up: How to Build Confidence Before a Game

Mental Warm-Up: How to Build Confidence Before a Game

How Mentally Tough Are You?

How Mentally Tough Are You?

The One Word You Should Never Say to Yourself

The One Word You Should Never Say to Yourself

Q&A: How to Deal With a Tough Coach

Q&A: How to Deal With a Tough Coach

How to Improve Mental Focus on the Baseball Diamond

How to Improve Mental Focus on the Baseball Diamond

Home Field Advantage Is Real, Says Science

Home Field Advantage Is Real, Says Science

Get Tough on Your Goals to Get Fit

Get Tough on Your Goals to Get Fit

5 Steps to Changing a Bad Habit

5 Steps to Changing a Bad Habit

Positive Affirmations for Athletes

Positive Affirmations for Athletes

Can a Faster Brain Increase Sports Performance?

Can a Faster Brain Increase Sports Performance?

5 Tips for Playing Mentally Tough Tennis

5 Tips for Playing Mentally Tough Tennis

Growth Mindset: How to Think Like a Champion

Growth Mindset: How to Think Like a Champion

Study: Athletes Think Faster, More Accurately Than Non-Athletes

Study: Athletes Think Faster, More Accurately Than Non-Athletes

Why Athletes Must Focus on Developing Their Own Identity

Why Athletes Must Focus on Developing Their Own Identity

How Mental Performance Affects Your Workouts

How Mental Performance Affects Your Workouts

Using Sports Imagery as Pre-Performance Routine

Using Sports Imagery as Pre-Performance Routine

Build Mental Toughness in the Weight Room

Build Mental Toughness in the Weight Room

4 Obstacles to Better Goal Setting

4 Obstacles to Better Goal Setting

How Clayton Kershaw Gets in the Zone

How Clayton Kershaw Gets in the Zone

4 Reasons Your Team Is Losing

4 Reasons Your Team Is Losing

5 Tips to Becoming a Successful Athlete

5 Tips to Becoming a Successful Athlete

How to 'Keep Your Cool' on the Football Field

How to 'Keep Your Cool' on the Football Field

Does Home Field Actually Confer an Advantage?

Does Home Field Actually Confer an Advantage?

Tips to Be a Better Leader

Tips to Be a Better Leader

Overcome Your Fear of Failure

Overcome Your Fear of Failure

YardBarker